True acceptance is always done in a way that maintains your integrity.

The desire for acceptance—and the lack thereof—is a prevalent theme in relationships.

It can appear in an angry “Just accept it!” It can sound pleading, as in “Why won’t you just accept me the way I am?” There’s also pseudo-acceptance, such as “Fine. I accept I will never get through to you!” And there’s also manipulation disguised as acceptance with a sprinkling of martyrdom: “(Sigh)…I guess I just have to accept that I do all the work in the relationship.”

The concept of acceptance is used and abused, but what is it, really? How do we get it, and how do we give it? If you find that your partner keeps repeating the same thing to you, it could be an indication they don’t feel heard and accepted. If so, this article is for you.