Conflict Resolution
Is There a Right or Wrong Way to Fight with Your Partner?
"Where should we begin?” That is a question I often hear when I meet with a new couple. It is indeed a good question. Should they begin telling me about the “good ol’ days” when they were in love and absolutely sure that nothing would ever set them apart? [...]
A Short Guide for Affair Recovery
If you discover that your partner is having an affair, does it mean that the relationship is over? For many couples, the belief is that discovering an affair means the relationship is over. However, it depends on the reasons for the affair, and the current communication style within [...]
3 Steps for Ending That Recurring Fight
Relationships evoke some of our deepest longings and needs, such as wanting to feel loved, wanting to feel appreciated, wanting to feel safe. Nobody goes into a relationship looking for a fight. We want love, we want someone who values us, we want safety and a partner we can [...]
PACT: Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy
PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy) is a type of couples therapy that quickly gets to the heart of what’s happening with conflict and tension in your relationship. What is PACT? Imagine an issue you have with your partner. You are so darn MAD about it and you don’t [...]
The Conflict-Avoidant Couple
We usually think that couples break up when they have too much conflict. But being 'conflict-avoidant' could be just as damaging. If you’re not fighting with your partner you might be in trouble. Most people think that not fighting is a good thing. After all, who actually wants to [...]
Love After War: It’s Possible
In order to maintain a healthy long-term sexual relationship, you need to be able to effectively navigate conflict. Do you find yourself mistaking sex for intimacy? Have you fallen in love with someone you hardly know but have fantastic sex with? Do you find yourself using sex to resolve [...]