The marriage retreats are usually two or three days long. During the day we do an extended morning session and an extended afternoon session. Breaks or times can be adjusted to the couple and their needs.
Getting ready for the retreat: Your work will start before arriving at the marriage retreat. First, you will receive a questionnaire to fill out and send to Gal. The questions will help you reflect on your current challenges from a different angle, and inspire you to think about your goals for the work we’ll do together.
Finding the real causes: Most couples are surprised to find that the real causes for their distress are different than what they thought. It’s not so much what you fight about; it’s the underlying pattern that causes distress in your relationship. And those patterns are usually unconscious. Otherwise, how would two great people with the best of intentions end up in a difficult relationship? Once you recognize the real causes of distress, the blame in the relationship disappears, and you’re on a path of positive action that leads to closeness and intimacy.
Going beyond “talking about it”: Often words can distract you from the real topic you need to focus on, the real under the surface cause (as we wrote above). Gal’s unique approach offers experiential exercises to help cut through the words and create a direct experience. This experience can help you understand why you’re stuck and immediately give you a sense of how to create change.
Gal is unique in his use of the wisdom of the body-mind connection to help create effective change. You have probably heard that most communication is non-verbal, meaning your tone of voice and body language are the most powerful messages that your partner hears. Utilizing this non-verbal information to understand yourself and your partner and create change is a unique, powerful method that few therapists are skilled at.
Repair and resolve: When relevant, we’ll focus on repairing past hurts, finding ways to get close to each other and enhancing intimacy. It’s likely you’re both starving for love and intimacy at this point, and communication challenges are often exacerbated by this lack of closeness. Learning how to reconnect and be intimate with each other, the right way, can be a real transformative experience.
Clarity about separations: Sometimes the best step forward for couples is to break up or divorce. Yet the stakes are high, so you want to be sure that this is the right step for you. The couples retreat can help you clarify – how you got here, and what each one of you needs to stay in the relationship; and if that’s impossible, then understanding your next steps forward. Separating from a place of clarity and mutual understanding can be very relieving and empowering.
Coaching after the retreat: Your work as a couple might not be over after the retreat. Gal will be available for in-person or remote sessions with the couple to build on the work done together in the retreat.
Don’t just take our word for it – see what other couples have to say about their work with Gal!