Connection happens when both of you are able to receive what the other is actually saying or experiencing in the present moment.

When are we projecting versus connecting with our partners?

When you and your partner argue, do you find yourselves fighting over who is right and who is wrong? This is a dance a lot of us find ourselves in; it’s called “the blame game.” With couples, this dynamic is created when you’ve stopped connecting. Continuing the same approach of who is right and who is wrong only keeps the negative cycle going, which feels like a not so fun merry-go-round.

How do you know you are in this dance? When you feel the need to prove you are right about something. In this dynamic, you find yourselves making only intellectual contact, versus mostly through the heart.