Every day, you want to make your partner feel like you’re there for them.

Whether you’ve been married for thirty years or three months, for many people there comes a time when their marriage is not as blissful as when it started. Often it looks like this: the honeymoon ends, everyday life and stress enter in, and your marriage is suddenly on the rocks. According to this YourTango panel of relationship experts—including our very own Gal Szekely—a certain type of relationship stress is perfectly normal. And the good news is, it takes a lot more than some regular old stress to push a marriage to the brink.

That said, making a relationship last a lifetime does take some work. The big question is, what should you pay attention to when considering the health and security of your union? In this video, Gal (starting at 2:17), along with YourTango’s Senior VP Melanie Gorman, author Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. Rita DeMaria, and Marni Feuerman discuss how the secret to a happy and fulfilling marriage actually isn’t as hard as it seems. Check it out and let us know what you think!

And, if you need more of these tips along with some practical, hands-on tools, join Gal and Liron this summer for Love Made Simple: Premarital Couples Retreat! Relationships take maintenance, and no one’s given you the manual—until now. In just two days, you’ll rediscover your partner and greatly expand your potential as a couple – and prepare for the future together. Register today!