Most couples who come into my office have a general sense that sharing their true feelings will soften the edges of their conflicts and improve their connection. They’ve seen the therapy sessions on TV, where the husband admits that he’s not actually angry, he’s terrified. Terrified that he’s not [...]
“What exactly are we going to do?” This is usually the first question that just about everyone considering working with a sex and intimacy coach asks. Because this style of work is still relatively new in the grand scheme of personal growth, healing and wellness, very few people have [...]
As we approach the peak of the holiday season, we can take a moment to be thankful for another year and time well spent with our loved ones. The holidays come with wonderful opportunities to slow down and enjoy moments with your family, but they often can come at the [...]
With on-going development and nourishment of the four elements of romantic relationships-- safety, love, shared interests and mutuality--we can keep our relationship feeling fresh, engaging and satisfying.At times, many of us feel that something is missing in our relationship. On some level, we all share similar basic needs, and a [...]
Here are five habits that are easy to integrate into your daily life, and will quickly enhance good feelings all around while tempering the challenging ones. Often when we enter the New Year we take time to review where we’ve been, assess where we want to go, and set [...]
Not being your authentic self in relationship can occur in a variety of ways. Maintaining your individuality while in intimate romantic relationships is an important aspect of developing a healthy and sustainable relational dynamic. Most people want to be in a relationship where they feel a deep sense of [...]
More than ever, we need to be intimate with each other; tender, caring, and communicative.During the last few weeks, every person I saw in the Bay Area was clearly impacted in some way by the changes in our political climate. As a couples therapist, I witness the impact of this [...]
The reason that many of us lose the spark starts with the nature of relationships themselves: They’re always changing. You’re not alone if you wake up one morning and find that the romance is gone in your relationship. One of the most common questions I [...]
Any problem, big or small, within a family, always seems to start with bad communication. Someone isn't listening. ~Emma Thompson Do you and your partner fight before a family event? Is there one family member who just sets you off? Family gatherings are stressful; juggling hopes for a good [...]
Here is the basic idea behind Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples: underneath your fights with your partner there is a desire to feel secure in your love. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples is a popular approach to couples therapy that has been validated in research. EFT helps [...]
Why is every day ending in a fight? Why does it always feel like I’m walking on eggshells? Why am I becoming distant in my relationship when I want to feel closer? If you're asking any of these questions, you can bet you've entered The Attack-Withdraw Vortex, a snappy [...]
All 5 Love Languages communicate the exact same thing: “I love you. I care about you. You matter to me.” Here are The 5 Love Languages Physical touch Quality time Words of affirmation Acts of service Gifts Turns out there are more languages than English, Spanish, Mandarin, etc. There are [...]