Awareness and Personal Growth
What Your Attachment Style Means for Your Relationship
Even those with the most entrenched challenges can 'earn' secure attachment. Do you often fear that your partner doesn't want to be as close as you'd like them to be? Do relationships tend to consume a large part of your emotional energy? Or maybe you're often on high alert for [...]
Preparing for Couples Therapy
Couples can allow logistics, work schedules, children, money, and an array of obstacles get in the way of supporting their precious relationship. For most of us, going to couples therapy is a big deal. Couples therapy is quite different from individual therapy in that choosing a topic involves two people [...]
“Falling” in Love, or “Landing” in Love?
With an endless variety of potential 'perfect fits,' how do we know when to stop? We live in a very stimulating era—everything seems to be immediate, instantaneous, and accessible. Whatever we desire is out there and within our reach, as long as we have a few seconds and a Wi-Fi [...]
Appreciating Your Partner Starts Here and Now
It is such an important need to see and be seen. “To the world you might be one person, but to one person you might be the world.” —Anonymous I’ve often heard the words “I miss you” or “I can't wait to see you” when I travel. Who hasn’t witnessed [...]
Why Opening to Vulnerability Improves Relationship
When we are vulnerable with each other, our emotional load lightens. When we step back and take a deeper look at what we are seeking in intimate partnership, many of us find a desire for acceptance, support, and connection. Yet many couples get stuck in painful cycles with each other, [...]
What are you *really* communicating during sex?
To get a better sense of the meaning sex has in your relationship, you have to expand your lens of curiosity wider than the sex act itself. When you and your partner have sex, what are you communicating to each other? Imagine, for instance, that you could see a video of [...]