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  • Marriage Counseling and Couples Therapy in San Francisco

    Our San Francisco Bay Area couples counselors specialize in marriage and family therapy, providing you with the support you need to revitalize your relationship. We have assisted hundreds of couples, using the latest developments in couple’s counseling research to discover the most effective solutions to the challenges you face. Using a warm, interactive, and practical approach, our marriage counselors focus on short-term results so that you can quickly experience more ease and connection with each other. We also offer sliding-scale therapy to those with limited financial resources. Our goal is to support you in having the fulfilling, passionate relationship you desire. We offer relationship counseling to individuals and couples as well as weekend seminars, workshops, and free lectures. In addition to several offices in San Francisco, we serve clients in the East Bay and South Bay.



    Are you getting stuck in the same arguments again and again? San Francisco couples counseling can help you resolve underlying issues so that you can easefully speak about the things that matter most. more



    Intimacy is built on trust, and when trust has been compromised, it can feel very lonely. Marriage counseling can support you in taking the steps for rebuilding trust and connection. more



    Do you feel more like roommates than lovers? Has your sexual passion declined? Couples counseling can help you rediscover the vitality of your physical and romantic relationship. more

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    • Relationship specialists: We help both individuals and couples improve their relationships.
    • Short-term results: Counseling doesn’t have to take years! We focus on short-term results based on the goals that you set.
    • Direct feedback: We offer interactive sessions in a warm, supportive environment, providing you with direct feedback so that you know what needs to be done to change things for the better.
    • Up-to-date knowledge: We are current on relationship research and methodologies and regularly collaborate with each other on new ideas.
    • Sliding-scale options: We offer sliding-scale psychotherapy to help make counseling affordable.

    The Couples Center FAQ

    Meet the


    • Sergio Rodriguez-Castillo, MFTi, Berkeley couples counselor
      Sergio is a bilingual (Spanish) and bicultural psychotherapist with more than 20 years of experience as a therapist, consultant, and coach, helping couples, families, and organizations to face personal, existential, relational or systemic crises. Sergio is not only a psychotherapist but a trainer of psychotherapists, teaching couples counseling at the California Institute of Integral Studies. As an expert on relationships, communication skills and couples in crises such as lack of sexual desire, infidelity, anger issues and lack of commitment. He uses his experience to help his clients to get more out of life, to work and love intensely. Read More

      Sergio Rodriguez-Castillo, MFTi
    • Justin Hartery, MFTi, Berkeley couples counselor
      I am here to help you learn how to communicate your needs, desires, and emotions in a way that helps you get met and feel heard. It is my job to help you better understand and express yourself in ways that support satisfying connection and authentic expression in your relationship to yourself and others. It is my job to help each of you better understand and express yourself in relationship to one another in ways that support satisfying contact, authentic connection, deepened intimacy and a fulfilling sex life. By providing a safe space and offering tools to negotiate differences and resolve conflict, I can help you each access the inherent resources already alive inside you and overcome whatever is in the way of the relationship you desire. Read More

      Justin Hartery, MFTi
    • Raia Kogan, MFT, Berkeley couples counselor
      Raia believes that a deeply nourishing and satisfying relationship is possible even when there has been past wounding and trauma and feels continually honored to share in and support deeply intimate and tender moments with the couples she serves. Raia has been working with individuals and couples for 8 years and is experienced in working with diverse couples including LQBTQI, monogamous, and polyamorous couples. Read More

      Raia Kogan, MFT
    • Shena Jade Jensen, MFTi, San Fransisco couples counselor
      Being in a committed partnership can be profoundly challenging and simultaneously the most important need in our lives. When it is good we feel we can handle anything in the world, and when it is not meeting our needs it can feel like the ground beneath us is crumbling. Shena works with couples to reconnect them in the place where it feels like even the most insurmountable challenges can be faced together again. Read More

      Shena Jade Jensen, MFTi
    • Daniel Clifford, MFT, San Francisco couples counselor
      Daniel believes that the scariest and, simultaneously, most rewarding thing someone can do is be open and vulnerable with the person they love and care about the most. Our culture doesn't give us much practice in communicating this way, which puts us in a situation of having to learn as we go. Daniel holds that being authentic and vulnerable provides people with what they need and have been missing: connection and intimacy with their partner. Read More

      Daniel Clifford, MFT
    • Erika Bennett, MFTi, couples counselor in San Francisco and Berkeley
      Erika approaches the therapeutic relationship from a somatic (meaning "of the body") orientation and taking a 360-degree point of view of who you are emotionally, intellectually, physically, sexually, energetically, spiritually, materially, cosmologically (you name it!) with genuine curiosity and acceptance. In working with you as a couple, we explore the dynamics of what makes your relationship tick and what keeps it out of balance. Read More

      Erika Bennett, MFTi
    • Talia Abraham, couples counselor in San Francisco
      Talia is passionate about her work with couples, helping them overcome such obstacles by revivifying that essential source of curiosity that binds people together. She has helped many overcome verities of issues such as trust, disconnection, and codependency. She finds inspiration in supporting couples to create their desired change and move towards a deeper and more loving relationship. Read More

      Talia Abraham, MFT
    • Bart Hatler, couples counselor in San Francisco
      Bart is a couples counselor and psychotherapist with over 10 years of training and experience. He holds master's degrees in both Counseling Psychology and Spiritual Psychology and works with a compassionate and thoughtful approach. His style draws on a number of traditions and orientations including relational, psychodynamic, existential, humanistic, and transpersonal. Read More

      Bart Hatler, MFTi
    • Pauline Wakeham, couples counselor in San Francisco
      All too often, it is Pauline's experience that problems occur for couples after the “honeymoon phase” has worn off—whether married or unmarried. These problems may not become an issue for some time, or they may become quickly apparent. Pauline helps couples get unstuck, identify patterns that are often trained into us when young, let them go, and create new ways of relating. Read More

      Pauline Wakeham, LCSW
    • Suzanne Berens, MFT, couples therapist in San Francisco, CA
      Suzanne understands that pleas for connection, validation, and understanding in intimate relationships often masquerade as complaints. With warmth and compassion, she helps couples uncover the source of their challenges and develop more skillful ways to communicate. Suzanne knows firsthand that crisis can stress a marriage and test partners’ capacity to cope. But if approached with mindfulness, crisis can also be a portal to deeper intimacy and unspeakable beauty. Read More

      Suzanne Berens, MFT
    • Daniela Koenig, MFT, couples therapist in San Francisco, CA
      Often couples want closeness but instead fight, blame, withdraw, and defend, leading them to feel lonely. Not knowing how to stop or do something different, couples get stuck, which kills the spark, love, and passion that initially drew them to each other. It takes courage to be intimate and real in relationship. Couples counseling is a place to take a deep breath, assess, and reconnect. Daniela meets every couple where they are and helps them recognize what is working and what isn’t. Read More

      Daniela Koenig, MFT
    •  Clodagh O'Herlihy, MFT, marriage counselor San Francisco and Palo Alto
      Clodagh understands how much courage it can take a couple to collaborate with a therapist. She has a warm and grounded approach inviting clients to feel more at ease and safe in her presence. Her intention is to support couples explore their differences and their love for each other. In her work, Clodagh is client-centered and focuses her attention on the couple’s specific goals. Read More

      Clodagh O’Herlihy, MFT

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