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  • Marriage Counseling and Couples Therapy in San Francisco

    Our San Francisco Bay Area couples counselors specialize in marriage and family therapy, providing you with the support you need to revitalize your relationship. We have assisted hundreds of couples, using the latest developments in couple’s counseling research to discover the most effective solutions to the challenges you face. Using a warm, interactive, and practical approach, our marriage counselors focus on short-term results so that you can quickly experience more ease and connection with each other. We also offer sliding-scale therapy to those with limited financial resources. Our goal is to support you in having the fulfilling, passionate relationship you desire. We offer relationship counseling to individuals and couples as well as weekend seminars, workshops, and free lectures. In addition to several offices in San Francisco, we serve clients in the East Bay and South Bay.



    Are you getting stuck in the same arguments again and again? San Francisco couples counseling can help you resolve underlying issues so that you can easefully speak about the things that matter most. more



    Intimacy is built on trust, and when trust has been compromised, it can feel very lonely. Marriage counseling can support you in taking the steps for rebuilding trust and connection. more



    Do you feel more like roommates than lovers? Has your sexual passion declined? Couples counseling can help you rediscover the vitality of your physical and romantic relationship. more

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    • Relationship specialists: We help both individuals and couples improve their relationships.
    • Short-term results: Counseling doesn’t have to take years! We focus on short-term results based on the goals that you set.
    • Direct feedback: We offer interactive sessions in a warm, supportive environment, providing you with direct feedback so that you know what needs to be done to change things for the better.
    • Up-to-date knowledge: We are current on relationship research and methodologies and regularly collaborate with each other on new ideas.
    • Sliding-scale options: We offer sliding-scale psychotherapy to help make counseling affordable.

    The Couples Center FAQ

    Meet the


    • Shena Jade Jensen, MFTi, San Fransisco couples counselor
      Being in a committed partnership can be profoundly challenging and simultaneously the most important need in our lives. When it is good we feel we can handle anything in the world, and when it is not meeting our needs it can feel like the ground beneath us is crumbling. Shena works with couples to reconnect them in the place where it feels like even the most insurmountable challenges can be faced together again. Read More

      Shena Jade Jensen, MFTi
    • Daniel Clifford, MFT, San Francisco couples counselor
      Daniel believes that the scariest and, simultaneously, most rewarding thing someone can do is be open and vulnerable with the person they love and care about the most. Our culture doesn't give us much practice in communicating this way, which puts us in a situation of having to learn as we go. Daniel holds that being authentic and vulnerable provides people with what they need and have been missing: connection and intimacy with their partner. Read More

      Daniel Clifford, MFT
    • Erika Bennett, MFTi, couples counselor in San Francisco and Berkeley
      Erika approaches the therapeutic relationship from a somatic (meaning "of the body") orientation and taking a 360-degree point of view of who you are emotionally, intellectually, physically, sexually, energetically, spiritually, materially, cosmologically (you name it!) with genuine curiosity and acceptance. In working with you as a couple, we explore the dynamics of what makes your relationship tick and what keeps it out of balance. Read More

      Erika Bennett, MFTi
    • Talia Abraham, couples counselor in San Francisco
      Talia is passionate about her work with couples, helping them overcome such obstacles by revivifying that essential source of curiosity that binds people together. She has helped many overcome verities of issues such as trust, disconnection, and codependency. She finds inspiration in supporting couples to create their desired change and move towards a deeper and more loving relationship. Read More

      Talia Abraham, MFTi
    • Bart Hatler, couples counselor in San Francisco
      Bart is a couples counselor and psychotherapist with over 10 years of training and experience. He holds master's degrees in both Counseling Psychology and Spiritual Psychology and works with a compassionate and thoughtful approach. His style draws on a number of traditions and orientations including relational, psychodynamic, existential, humanistic, and transpersonal. Read More

      Bart Hatler, MFTi
    • Pauline Wakeham, couples counselor in San Francisco
      All too often, it is Pauline's experience that problems occur for couples after the “honeymoon phase” has worn off—whether married or unmarried. These problems may not become an issue for some time, or they may become quickly apparent. Pauline helps couples get unstuck, identify patterns that are often trained into us when young, let them go, and create new ways of relating. Read More

      Pauline Wakeham, LCSW
    • Shachar Erez, MFTi, couples therapist in San Francisco, CA
      Shachar is passionate about helping couples thrive. Too often, our lives get filled with too many demands. Little by little we start growing apart from our loved one, and the relationship loses its juiciness. We realize that we've lost passion for each other and feel more like good friends (on a good day), or business partners (on less than good days). Read More

      Shachar Erez, MFTi
    • Suzanne Berens, MFT, couples therapist in San Francisco, CA
      Suzanne understands that pleas for connection, validation, and understanding in intimate relationships often masquerade as complaints. With warmth and compassion, she helps couples uncover the source of their challenges and develop more skillful ways to communicate. Suzanne knows firsthand that crisis can stress a marriage and test partners’ capacity to cope. But if approached with mindfulness, crisis can also be a portal to deeper intimacy and unspeakable beauty. Read More

      Suzanne Berens, MFT
    • Daniela Koenig, MFT, couples therapist in San Francisco, CA
      Often couples want closeness but instead fight, blame, withdraw, and defend, leading them to feel lonely. Not knowing how to stop or do something different, couples get stuck, which kills the spark, love, and passion that initially drew them to each other. It takes courage to be intimate and real in relationship. Couples counseling is a place to take a deep breath, assess, and reconnect. Daniela meets every couple where they are and helps them recognize what is working and what isn’t. Read More

      Daniela Koenig, MFT
    •  Clodagh O'Herlihy, MFT, marriage counselor San Francisco and Palo Alto
      Clodagh understands how much courage it can take a couple to collaborate with a therapist. She has a warm and grounded approach inviting clients to feel more at ease and safe in her presence. Her intention is to support couples explore their differences and their love for each other. In her work, Clodagh is client-centered and focuses her attention on the couple’s specific goals. Read More

      Clodagh O’Herlihy, MFT
    • Mor Gavish, Marriage and Family Therapist in San Francisco
      Relationships are everywhere. We are constantly in relationship with one another, and it can be both exciting and challenging. Being in romantic relationship, of all kinds, brings up beauty, proximity and variety of different patterns that, at times, can be difficult. Mor believes that these challenges can also be seen as gift. This can be a place where you and your partner can deepen your relationship to self and other and an opportunity for discovery, growth, closeness, and healing. Read More

      Mor Gavish, MFT
    • San Francisco CA couple therapist Megan Williams
      Megan has worked with many couples to identify the conflicts within their relationships. She has helped them move through issues with connection, disengagement, infidelity, chronic fighting, trust and the challenges of staying intimately connected while parenting. Her style is warm, engaged and practical. It has evolved from experience in her own long term relationship as well as her training. Through your work with Megan you will remember what brought you together. Read More

      Megan C. Williams, MFT

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      We usually think that couples break up when they have too much conflict. But being ‘conflict-avoidant’ could be just as damaging. If you’re not fighting with your partner you might be in trouble. Most people think that not fighting is a good thing. After all, who actually wants to have conflict with their loved one? […]
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    • Preparing for Couples Therapy

      Couples can allow logistics, work schedules, children, money, and an array of obstacles get in the way of supporting their precious relationship. For most of us, going to couples therapy is a big deal. Couples therapy is quite different from individual therapy in that choosing a topic involves two people instead of one. Sitting with […]