The irony of self–sabotage in relationships is that we destroy the thing we really want, love, and connection, often without even realizing what we are doing.

With dating, you’re concerned with the present, but when in a relationship, you look towards the future. “Dating” and “in a relationship” are terms used interchangeably sometimes, despite there being a clear line between the two.

What constitutes cheating varies across relationships and individuals, because boundaries, values, and expectations are not universal.

A common reason couples seek therapy is to decide whether to end their relationship. Oftentimes, they look to the therapist for the answer. However, this decision is for the couple alone. The therapist’s role is to help each partner reach a decision with which they are satisfied. It is not to tell them what to do. So, how do you know when it is time to call it quits?

You’ve had troubles for a while. The arguments are endless. You don’t feel close the way you used to. It seems there are more negative interactions than good times together. The “d-word” has entered your thoughts at least once. You’re not sure about the future, but you know that what you’ve tried before hasn’t worked. Now you’re willing to try something a bit more drastic.