Premarital Counseling in San Francisco

Why do Premarital Counseling?

All couples start with a strong commitment to making their relationship successful. Yet, depending on who you ask, 41% – 50% of them end up in a divorce! Premarital counseling is one of the best ways to support the future of your marriage. Did you know that one in every four adults in the US has been divorced at least once?

Without realizing it, most couples have unrealistic expectations about their marriage, fueled by myths and popular media. Moreover, most people don’t have good relationship role models and despite their best intentions, end up repeating patterns that they witnessed in those relationships.

Here are three facts that most couples don’t know when they get married:

1

A relationship goes through predictable stages.

In the first stage of a relationship, it’s usually easy and exciting. However, in the second stage, it is inevitable for couples to go through a period of conflict and disagreement. The more prepared you are as a couple the easier it is to navigate this phase.

2

A successful relationship requires certain skills and knowledge.

You probably know that in order to be successful in your career you need to gain knowledge and skills. The same applies to your relationship. A successful relationship is something that you do, not something that you have and most couples need to learn the tools to make it happen.

3

You have to be aligned around important life values.

Love is not enough! Each one of us has certain values and expectations from our relationship that are absolutely important to us. For a successful future, couples need to have the same core values and vision of the future.

We have two premarital counseling options:

Love Made Simple: Premarital Retreat

Secure your relationship with the secrets to more passion, intimacy, and playfulness!

In Love Made Simple you’ll receive a map for creating a successful relationship—especially how to bring passion, intimacy, and ease to your love life. This is a comprehensive, hands-on workshop in which you’ll do practical exercises with your partner that are both fun and educational.

Our approach is unique in that it brings the latest tools and methods in an experiential, enlivening, and engaging way. We incorporate the latest findings from attachment theory and research—also known as the science of love.

You’ll learn the essential secrets of a successful relationship:

  • How to set powerful intentions that will help your relationship grow
  • What your partner really needs to feel loved—and how to give it to them
  • Ways to align around a common vision and values (money, kids, goals, and more)
  • Practical communication tools for talking about the hard stuff

You’ll also learn techniques based on mindfulness—the skill known to reduce stress and increase overall happiness. We’re here to help you build a love that lasts!

We offer this exciting program several times a year. You can learn more about our premarital couples retreat here.
ng>Listen to what couples say about the premarital retreat:

 

Premarital Counseling One on One

If you and your partner prefer the attention and richness of private sessions, we offer a customized program that will prepare you for your new life together! The program is usually 6 meetings long, but it can also be adjusted to meet your needs. Working with a couples therapist can bring your relationship to a new level of intimacy and depth. We also offer sliding-scale psychotherapy to those with financial need.

Areas that are usually covered:

  • Understanding relationship’s patterns and potential pitfalls
  • How to negotiate conflict and accept differences
  • How to create more intimacy and closeness
  • Aligning around a common vision and values

Additional comments from couples who have gone through premarital counseling:

“I would definitely recommend premarital counseling to any soon-to-be newlyweds. I learned so much about my partner, how we relate to each other, and the ways in which we communicate, and what the other person values.”

“The [premarital] sessions do improve your relationship! Our communication has dramatically improved. In addition, you learn to delve deeper into who you are as a person, what triggers you, how you communicate, interact, and come across to your partner.”

“We got so much out of each session and had such valuable conversations.”

“We gained valuable tools and skills. It made us feel more secure and hopeful about our future.”

Interested in the one on one meetings?