Any problem, big or small, within a family, always seems to start with bad communication. Someone isn’t listening. ~Emma Thompson
Do you and your partner fight before a family event? Is there one family member who just sets you off?
Family gatherings are stressful; juggling hopes for a good time alongside expectations of mother-in-laws and well-intentioned siblings. Staying grounded and connected to your partner is vital to actually enjoying the holidays and entering the new year feeling refreshed from time off.
Here are five tips to getting along with both sides of your families and maximizing fun this holiday season with your partner:
The bottom line—be present with and accept your experience, and give yourself comfort with positive self-talk. No one triggers us like the people we love or want to love us. Give yourself the space to reflect and process; it will make authentic re-engaging much easier. And it will support your partnership and bring you even closer.
If you need help preparing for the holidays with your partner, our couples counselors in Berkeley, San Francisco, Walnut Creek, and Palo Alto can offer you the tools and support you need. We also offer sliding scale options for people with need.
Danielle brings over 14 years of experience to couples counseling. Her unique approach incorporates communication skills and relational-somatic and mindfulness-based techniques. Danielle sees couples with a large range of issues, including reclaiming sexual passion, coparenting/blended families, and recovery from trauma/history of abuse. She is both practical and creative in finding solutions to remaining present with and growing into healthy love relationships. She believes love is our best teacher and our relationships can be a place for working through key issues through building safety, depth and authenticity.