couples sex therapy

Mind blowing sex happens when two people are intimately connected with each other in the moment and fully present.

Being present during sex is one of the first and most effective ways to improve your sex life.

It sounds deceptively simple, but being 100% in the moment during sex is actually quite rare. It’s so easy for our minds to drift off—perhaps you begin to wander into your favorite fantasy, or maybe you start recapping tomorrow’s to-do list. Whatever the topic, when your mind begins to drift, you dissociate from your body and you dissociate from the moment.

Great sex happens when two people are intimately connected with each other in the moment and fully present, sensing their own bodies fully, free of thoughts and distractions. The closer you can get to presence, the better.

Think about it: if you’re eating while you’re busy or preoccupied, the food is finished before you know it and you barely seemed to taste it. But when you stop to savor the meal you’re eating, doesn’t it seem to taste better? It’s the same with sex. While it’s completely normal for your mind to drift, continually bring your thoughts back to your partner and the sensations happening in the now. The more you’re able to be present with your partner—in your body and in the moment—the more you’ll increase your pleasure and connectedness.